Often, we end up with the same goals and resolutions, year after year, without much success. What we don’t tend to realise is that the process itself is flawed. The process we use is functionally the same as if we were to choose a destination and try to get to there without any form of navigation. How are we supposed arrive without any sense of direction or mapped route?
Shifting our focus from attaining the result to asking the right questions gives us clarity. These insights help us understand the direction we want to move in.
Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.-Tony Robbins
We are the creators of our craft; the alchemists of our lives. We have the ability to take the mundane and transform it into something of awe. All of the tension in our lives can be woven into beauty, just as the beauty in our lives can crumble under tension.
Vision, imagination and discipline can make miracles happen. While we cannot control the outer circumstances of our lives, our mindset is within our control.
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.“ – James Allen
Remember that life is about the journey, not the destination. Simply having a vague goal of “get fit” or “make more money” isn’t going to make you happier now. Try not to get too distracted by obsessing over the ultimate goal – experiencing progress and investing energy in the process is what brings fulfilment.
Here are some valuable questions worth asking yourself in times of reflection and redirection:
What were your best and worst moments of last year?
What experiences have made an imprint on you this past year? What can you do to commemorate the beautiful memories? What lessons did the difficult times teach you? How can you apply these lessons to every area of your life? What would help you experience the most growth right now: strengthening your weaknesses or nurturing your strengths?
What do you want to change going forward?
Write a list of everything you would like to change in your life and separate them into two categories: things within your control, and things outside of your control. What are some small steps you can take to change the things within your control? What are some small steps you can take to surrender the grief that you hold, caused by things outside of your control?
What is your ultimate “dream”?
Imagine, you are what you would describe as happy, successful and fulfilled. What does happiness feel like? What is your definition of success? What does it take to be truly fulfilled? Are your values aligned with your ultimate dream? Are your actions aligned with your values?
You are limitless.